The Upward Call of God: Submitting our Sexuality to the Lordship of Christ by P. Mark Achtemeier, PCUSA pastor and professor of systematic theology at the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary, Dubuque, IA.  Achtemeier writes, "real love means helping one another to discern God's will and to live truthfully in accordance with it."  Regarding the creation of man and woman, Achtemeier writes, "this divinely-willed complementarity and communion find their fulfillment and proper expression in the institution of marriage. " Sep/Oct 1996 Theology Matters  p. 1